So my mom and I were having a convo about relationships after watching Khloe and Lamar and it got me to thinking about the key elements to making relationships work. My parents have been together since they were young and I’ve been able to observe what works & what doesn’t.
I would definitely say step 1.) is trust. I’ve been in situations where I felt like I couldn’t trust the person so I just cut em off. What’s the point of being in a situation with someone if you can’t trust em? Lack of trust will just lead you to worry and stress and the last thing I’ll EVER stress about is a guy.. NEXT
2.) The next element I think would be keeping things fresh and new. Being young and in a relationship, it’s easy to grow sick or tired of the other person I know for me it is at least soo there’s nothing wrong with giving each other space so that the appreciation for one another will stay present b/c things are always perfect in the beginning but then it gets real!
3.) Stand your ground. It’s ok to be nice but not too nice…that gives the other person the green light to just wild out. And I ain’t having that!
4.) Don’t move too fast. Take baby steps get to know the person inside and out, there’s nothing wrong with that.
5.) Don’t bring previous problems into a new situation. That’s one way to make the other person RUNNN. I mean it’s just immature and like Y?! If you’re still hurt from a prior relationship plz don’t get into a new one; that saves drama and stupidity.
6.) Make an effort. All relationships have drama there will be arguments but don’t be petty if it’s a situation as little as my bf or gf added someone of the opposite sex on FB then calm down.
7.) Keep pride AWAY. Pride is like the number 1 killer to a relationship. Having pride is cute when you’re like 16 but once you get older stop it. or you will end up lonely. It’s one thing to be strong n not put up wit the shenanigans like myself I refuse to put up with anything less than what I deserve. But if you’re in a good situation or even in a good friendship it’s ok to put your pride aside and talk out the problem. Now I’m not saying say you’re sorry if you’re not but it’s ok to wanna work on things.
8.) Ask yourself are you happy? It’s not being selfish if you put your feelings on a pedastool. If you’re not happy you gotta talk to the other person that’s making you unhappy and if you don’t see change then well give em the boot.
9). Don’t betray the other person’s trust. EX: Cheating. now I know I put this as #9 but this is verrryy important. If you feel like you’re ready to explore let the other person know what’s gud. Whether they respect it or not that’s better then leaving anyone in the dark.
Well those are 9 key elements to making a relationship work I tried to do 10 but I couldn’t think of 1 more but when I think of that 1 I will certainly add it..! LOL. What do you guys think it takes to make a relationship work? Did I miss anything?
